It could be that your guy is turned on by the idea of you with someone else and that your talking about M counts as dirty talk for him. It's a fairly common kink.
I get why it might be weird and distracting for you. (I feel that way about being required to make loud fake pleasure sounds so as to be more like porn. The effort of acting distracts me from my real pleasure.) Still, we make these sacrifices sometimes to please a partner. Anyway, if it is functioning as dirty talk for him, it might be easier for you to do if you are also thinking of it that way, so you might want to talk to him about it in a non bed setting just in case. Knowing what he's getting out of it would make it easier to tailor to fit both of your needs in the moment later. (If I know key phrases that tend to push a guy's buttons, it's easier to autopilot my mouth when I'm close to cumming). It's just a suggestion and I won't be offended if you disregard.
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Date: 2012-10-20 02:38 am (UTC)It could be that your guy is turned on by the idea of you with someone else and that your talking about M counts as dirty talk for him. It's a fairly common kink.
I get why it might be weird and distracting for you. (I feel that way about being required to make loud fake pleasure sounds so as to be more like porn. The effort of acting distracts me from my real pleasure.) Still, we make these sacrifices sometimes to please a partner. Anyway, if it is functioning as dirty talk for him, it might be easier for you to do if you are also thinking of it that way, so you might want to talk to him about it in a non bed setting just in case. Knowing what he's getting out of it would make it easier to tailor to fit both of your needs in the moment later. (If I know key phrases that tend to push a guy's buttons, it's easier to autopilot my mouth when I'm close to cumming). It's just a suggestion and I won't be offended if you disregard.